PEOPLE / ASK YOUR ABLA
Dear Yonca abla,
One of my closest girlfriends is keen to have a boob job. She has a
gorgeous figure, is slim and beautiful, but feels her breasts are too small and
is keen to get them enlarged. Ultimately
it is up to her to do what she wants with her body, but I’m thinking it is more
than likely down to the new man in her life, who has made her feel insecure.
He is a good looking guy and they make a
good match, but it seems he has a thing about ladies with large breasts – his former
girlfriends all had bigger boobs. No operation is without risks, so
why change your natural body shape for a guy? I can’t abide vanity, but worse
still I can’t stand by and see my best friend pushed into unnecessary plastic
surgery due to pressure from her boyfriend. I’ve tried to have a discussion
with her, but she just closes up and tells me it’s none of my business. Should
I just leave her be?
AR
My dearest,
Your friend is very lucky to have a friend like you
who is concerned for her health and wellbeing. If it was my friend, I would sit
her down and talk with her to find out the real reasons.
Breast augmentation can help you feel more
comfortable with your looks, but you will never have the same feeling of your
own natural breasts again. There are lots of pros and cons with any operation
and this type of cosmetic surgery comes with huge risks too: from excessive
pain, to the rupturing of implants; more surgery could be required, especially
in the long-term; and there is the considerable recovery time (several months) and
costs (on average £5,000) involved.
You must tell your friend that she is beautiful as
she is, but if she is adamant that she wants surgery for her own benefit then
she must do a lot of research before she goes under the knife. I know many
ladies who have had breast surgery and who have loved it, but I also know
ladies who have regretted it! The decision can only be made by your friend.
As for her new man – I would never change my looks
for any man. He should accept her for who she is as she is. If she is doing it
to satisfy him then he will not just be controlling her looks, but also her
life too. Good luck.
Lots of love always,
Yonca abla
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